Archive for September, 2009

Guest blog on Culpwrit.com is up!

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Three Weeks

She couldn’t peel her eyes away even if she tried. She reached out and touched the lace embroidery gently. Her fingers slowly traced each line, each sparkling sequin all the way down to the tightly cinched waist line. She took a deep breath and circled the dress, gazing speechlessly at the beaded motif chapel train. This was it. She was really doing this.

“Did you find it? Did you find it?”

Carly looked over the mannequin at her best friend Adjo.

“This is just stunning. I have never seen anything like this before. Look at the detail on this, the hem, the bodice, right here on the back. I’m actually getting a little excited.”

Adjo laughed and hugged her friend.

“Thank God! We’ve been looking for months. I thought you were being difficult and picky on purpose.”

Carly sighed and clasped her hands nervously.

“I just want everything to be perfect, to be just right.”

“Come on, let’s go find a sales associate and get you inside your dream dress!”

Carly hugged Adjo tightly, tears in her eyes.

“I guess this is really happening.  It’s been so long.”

Adjo hugged her back.

“You deserve all of it.”

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This blog is referring only to straight friendships or relationships.

Don’t you love Sunday debates? My cousins and I began our Sunday with this question: can men and women really be just friends? Out of the four of us, two said yes and two said no. I was on the ‘no’ front, till I defined what I was trying to say a little better. What sparked the whole debate was a link one of my friends sent me. On Good Morning America last month, Steve Harvey discussed the question, can men and women be just friends (View the GMA Steve Harvey segment here).

Steve Harvey said NO, nah uh, nope, absolutely not. Here’s my answer to the question. It is possible to have a completely platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. However, and this is my key stance, there’s a level of deliberate effort to maintain the relationship as purely platonic.

This is my personal opinion. Men and women aren’t built to be just friends. It is not a natural thing. We weren’t created that way. We were created to be together, romantically and sexually. To maintain a purely friendly relationship, we all have to work at it. We may not always be conscious of the effort we make to stay just friends, but it’s there.  

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