Archive for October, 2009

“‘Become the man you want to marry.’ I’ve taken that on. What qualities do I find attractive, and can I find them in myself? What am I missing? Can I be that for myself?” -  Michelle Williams (actress), 2009

This blog was born out of two things: Michelle Williams’s quote above and an IM with a friend of mine. His name has been changed but not the message.

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Bad boys, bad boys, whatcha gonna do, whatcha gonna do when they come for you?

I’m sometimes like a love guru – a pro bono relationship therapist. I just wish I could use my infinite wisdom of men and relationships on myself. But anyways, that’s another story. A friend of mine (you must be tired when I always start with ‘a friend of mine’ – but I can’t divulge the names of my clients) called me on Saturday with a dilemma. He’s typically been a ‘bad boy’ most of his life with a heart more secure than Fort Knox. Despite all that, he’s never lacked attention. The women still fawn over him. But he recently decided to do things a little differently and be open to expressing his feelings. Unfortunately, that didn’t quite work out. He opened up, liked someone a lot, expressed it openly, and got nowhere. Then he reverted back to bad boy status and already has other options! So he called and said, what’s the deal?

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“God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

Genesis 1:27

God created us, his children, male and female, in His own image. In a way, we carry his genes. We are his creations. Perhaps this is where our innate desire to bear our own children comes from.

According to research, women from as early as age three think primarily about two things – marriage and motherhood. And in Ghana, and most other African cultures, one typically goes with the other. A woman is naturally expected to get married and have children.

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