There’s this perception, real or actual, that Ghana is the place where single Ghanaian women can quickly and easily find husbands. If you’ve been away for years, and you’re gnashing like crazy in whatever foreign city you’re in, its best to pack up and go home and you’ll surely scoop a man. Some women, within months, weeks or even days of arriving, land hubbies. And I actually know quite a few women who’ve nabbed within a year max of arriving in Ghana. So is Ghana really bursting at the seams with eligible bachelors? It’s possible. I get more direct stares and double takes in Ghana than anywhere else (although it could be that Ghanaian men are just rude and like to stare). In any case, I did have more attention and possible suitors in Ghana. Since I left, it’s been incredibly dry. And everyone just keeps saying, you need to go back home to find a guy.
So I’m in Accra, impromptu visit. I landed late Thursday night, after the worst travel experience ever. Delta sucks, big time. And unfortunately, there was no one interesting to fraternize with on the flight. Excessive ‘boga’ swag and lafa was rampant. I got home close to midnight, incredibly jet-lagged so I logged online to check emails and chat. And my friend in the U.S. says to me, ‘you’re in Ghana, what are you doing at home. Go out. Find a man.’ I argued with him a bit, and said it’s not that simple. He insisted that within a week, I could find HIM, and I shouldn’t slack. That had me thinking. A week – is it possible? Possible or not, I’ve decided to put the perception or myth to the test. I’m in Ghana, and apparently my man is somewhere here. So for the next eight days, I’m going to be looking for him. People keep insisting there’s a lot of fish in the sea here. Wonderful, let’s find out.
So that is what this blog is going to be about, a true and honest account of my week-long quest to find HIM in the wonderful Ghana market. Each day I’ll write about my adventures, and tell you what happened, and if I met any potentials. Since I’ll be posting on a daily basis, please feel free to advice me if you feel I’m heading in the wrong direction. And for all the single Ghanaian women living abroad, thinking of moving back home to find HIM, maybe my adventure will help you out, a little. Here we go, people. Fingers crossed. Wish me luck!!
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Day One – Friday
I could barely wake up this morning. I slept close to 3am GMT and my eyes just wouldn’t open. The househelp came in around 8am and asked what I’d like for breakfast. Ah, I had missed that. You don’t have to have a boyfriend, husband or high-income status to get fed breakfast in bed! I asked for eggs and tea and went back to sleep. The eggs and tea arrived 30 mins later. I ate and went right back to bed. My mother’s driver, another Ghana luxury I have missed, arrived to take me on my errands. The day wasn’t starting out so bad, except I didn’t have luggage and I had to wear the same clothes I’d been wearing since Wednesday. Delta lost my luggage in transit. They’ve assured me it will be here within the next few days. It better be. I’m on a manhunt, and that ideally requires freshly laundered clothes.
I got a phone and chip from my cousin and decided to call a couple of old flames. They weren’t under consideration for the quest but I figured I could start from there. One of them was taken, but I had a soft spot for him, and nothing in life is permanent right, except my single status it seems. That’s been around forever. So I made the calls, and chatted a bit. Two were excited I was back and one was totally nonchalant. Ah well, I shrugged it off and then stepped out. My first stop was purely official business. I couldn’t even ‘shop’ at that location if I wanted – the selection was just old tired looking civil service men in their 40’s. No, no. Next stop, I sat outside the Adabraka VAT office waiting for my brother to get his VAT done. Nothing to see there either. Next, my brother and I went to meet some cousins and friends for lunch. Going out to lunch is getting really popular in Ghana. It surprises me. I’m not a ‘going out to lunch, or dinner’ type of person. Hanging out at home or the movie theatre will suffice. Hint, hint. Lunch was fun. I stared at almost every man seated there or walking in and most of them were like 40+ and wearing wedding bands. Where are the single men?
After lunch, we made a couple more stops. Nothing major. I went to Silver Star. I’m trying to get them to sponsor my book launch, so it was purely business and they had no eye candies either. After Silver Star, I went to Silverbird Lifestyle bookstore to check out my books and possible venue for the launch, also purely business, and highly uneventful. By the way, there are only 2 copies of CIRCLES left at the bookstore, which is great. I will replenish tomorrow, so if you haven’t grabbed a copy, please do 
. And email me, I will find you and sign it. Promise!
After Silverbird, I came home, drained by the heat and lack of men to ogle. One of my long-time girlfriends came by. Girlfriends, they’re such a rare breed. I’m trying to hold onto them a little better. And of course we talked about men. Is there anything better to talk about? She’s on the look-out as well, but I doubt she’ll be single for long. She’s super hot. Anyways, she said the single eligible men in Ghana are not as plentiful as people think. There are lots of men in Ghana, she said, but only 30% or less are serious potentials. That’s a disappointing statistic, but I’m not about to give up. After she left, I made some more phone calls. None led anywhere. My little brother went out without telling me and my cousin went to a party after work and got home tired. I really didn’t want to stay in on a Friday night but I had no choice. However, my resolve remains strong. This is only Day ONE!
Day Two – Saturday
My mother, very sly woman, tried to hide Coke from me. I woke up this morning in her room and saw this little fridge tucked in the corner. I didn’t notice it at all yesterday. I reached over, opened it and there’s this lonely 2-litre Christmas labeled bottle of Coke sitting right there. I cracked up. Was this the only place she could think of to hide Coke from me? In her little fridge? Hysterical. This lonely bottle needed company, so I liberated the cap and took a swing. Ah, Coke is truly a beautiful thing.
So the Coke discovery was a great way to start my day. I didn’t have breakfast in bed this time because I just couldn’t wake up. I really couldn’t. I finally managed to get up after noon. Life had to be lived, and it couldn’t happen in bed – well, maybe it can . Anyways, so I left home to go deliver 40 copies of CIRCLES to Silverbird. If you haven’t gotten a copy yet, Silverbird now has 40 brand new copies! Please go grab one as soon as you can. And of course inbox me on Facebook and tell me all about it. After Silverbird, I went to visit one of my long-time bffs. Like I mentioned yesterday, I am attempting to hold onto some girlfriends. It was a really good visit. It was good to catch up and talk and just relax. I miss my girlfriends. Long distance isn’t just a strain on romantic relationships but it’s also hard on friendships. After that, I went to visit my nephew. My life is primarily about family. There’s always this cousin, or that cousin, or my brothers, or something of the sort. I kinda like it that way. They have your back, always. The visit with my little nephew was great too. It took him hours, but eventually he managed to smile, just for me. That was awesome. He has a super cute dimpled smile, it’s just ridiculous.
After the two nice visits, I had to come home and get ready. I was going to meet an old friend at a concert. I wasn’t quite sure what this was. Was it a date? A meet-up? When we spoke on the phone, he said, ‘hey so I’m going to be here tomorrow night, can you come?’ That’s not a date right? There’s never been anything between us so I figured it was just a little meet-up, no biggie. I didn’t dress up, just a shirt and jeans and a little attempt at make-up. It was really nice seeing him. We hugged – tight. And within three minutes, I realized maybe this was a little more than a meet-up. It’s weird how you’re totally platonic with someone, no flirting whatsoever, and you see each other after a long while and then things are different. We went straight from kinda knowing each other to hand-holding, hugs and cuddling. I’m not sure what that was about, I was only wearing a checkered shirt, jeans and slippers. The concert was cool though, different, but cool. An hour or so into it, a couple of friends joined us, and then we all left to go check out some other spot. The tension between us was pretty high then, so we excused ourselves and sat in the car to talk. That’s another thing I’ve missed – sitting in a car with a boy. It beats a lunch date anytime. So we talked, trying to figure out what this attraction was, coming out of nowhere. He said maybe the events of the night should be the opening chapter of my next book. Hahaha, very funny. I told him I was going to blog about it when I got home and he was all for it. We talked for a really long time, it was cute. He’s a nice guy. And it was a really fun night, totally. I loved the attention completely. I soaked it up! And I just kept thinking, this is day two? Seriously? I need to move down here ASAP!
We went back to the concert briefly and when that was over, we decided to call it a night and made plans to ‘meet-up’ again. I had an absolutely good time. If I was back in Atlanta, I’d be heading to the movies by my lonesome self, drinking Coke Icee and swooning over some guy on the big screen. This is way better. The best part about hanging out with a guy is when he sends you a text when you get home. I particularly like the one I got tonight, ‘hey sexy’. Two words. That works for me, for now. End of Day TWO!
Day Three – Sunday
A friend of mine said, ‘what else is there to do on Sunday but to drink tea and lie in bed?’ I don’t like tea, but I definitely like the bed part. I spent half of today lying in bed. To be honest, I think it was more than half the day. I woke up late, as always, with a very serious craving for Auntie Muni. By the time I got there close to 2pm, there was nothing much left. No salad, eggs, fish and plantains. You just can’t get anything at Auntie Muni after 2pm. I’m not sure if that is on purpose or it’s just bad demand-supply planning. She needs to look into it ASAP. I was very disappointed. After my wakye brunch I went back to bed and stayed there till 5pm or so. I know, that’s just ridiculous, but it’s Sunday. I’m allowed. One of my oldest truly platonic male bffs came by and we just hang around and talked. I respect and admire him a lot because he’s totally himself. He does what he wants, and he is true to his interests, talents and beliefs. That’s pretty rare and that’s where I want to get to. To live the life I want to live, not dictated by what others think, believe and assume. It’s not about how others see your life, it’s about how you see your own life and the direction you’re on. Each time I talk to him, I feel like I’m interviewing him, because his philosophy on life and love is open-minded and mature. He had some pretty interesting insights about my situation that were kind of spot on. I’m stuck in a rut because I’m looking for fireworks. That feeling, that builds from the pit of your stomach and overwhelms you and you can barely breathe. That feeling that cripples you and you know without a doubt how you feel about the person. And he said a level of fireworks is required, but it shouldn’t be the whole deal. He acknowledged that it’s hard, when you’ve experienced the fireworks before, the pure unadulterated feeling of love and you just can’t seem to experience it again. Then you’re stuck, and nothing measures up. Ditto, my friend, ditto. So why can’t I have that level again? Must I settle for the Ghana December 31st fireworks or should I keep holding out for the Macys July 4th extravaganza (Macys spends a reported $8million minimum on their fireworks). I don’t know what the answer is.
After that creative, artsy, philosophical chat, we went to African Regent to check out the poolside – venue for the CIRCLES book launch in May. African Regent is a key sponsor of the event and I have never been to the poolside so I wanted to go check it out. I really want the launch to be casual, nothing uptight and stiff. I’m thinking a cocktail so a relaxed venue is important. I was at Silverbird yesterday, and their venue isn’t bad, but I think it works more for a book-signing. So the plan is to do cocktail book launch at Regent and then a book signing at Silverbird the day after or something. After checking out the Regent poolside, I had to head home. An old flame was waiting for me there.
This old flame is truly a special person. If there’s any ‘heart’ I could possibly clone, it’d be his. Don’t you sometimes wish you can create your man? With a heart from that one, and that one’s mind, and that one’s height and looks and so forth. Anyways, this old flame is a genuinely good guy. We hang out with my brother and cousin and had one of THE MOST INTERESTING debates/discussions I have ever had in my life. And funny enough, it centered on what most of you have posted on this blog – the level of education of the woman.
The men said honestly, all a man wants is a woman who won’t stress you out. Someone who will make you feel special and appreciated. Someone who acknowledges your hard work and effort. Someone who celebrates your successes and as well as make you feel better about your failures. That doesn’t sound so hard does it? But the catch is, they think most educated women in certain demanding professions don’t give their men that support. It’s the ‘me wura’ factor. My cousin said imagine a situation where you get home from work and you’re damn tired, and your wife puts your feet up, and brings you your hot meal and a chilled glass of water. Then when you’re done, she brings you water to wash your hands and says, ‘me wura, is there anything else you need?’ That’s bliss. And of course they said someone like me wouldn’t do that. I’m definitely not calling any man ‘me wura’ so I’m sorry if that is a pre-requisite. But I think showing love and appreciation for a man takes different forms. I may not serve him in the exact way my cousin described it, but I will ensure that his needs are met to the best of my ability. Why not? But they argued that most women have lost the value of appreciation, simple basic ways of showing a man you care. They gave an example of a girl who cooked banku and okro for her man because he’d just completed a very grueling exam. I was impressed though. I have to admit that. Women may hate me for this, but I think they have a point somewhere, a little point. Career-minded women may be losing sight of the little ways to make someone content and happy. The little gestures of appreciation go a long way. It’s like the work environment. In a recession particularly, it’s not all about monetary rewards. Managers can show their appreciation for their employees through little things, pizza/beer night, thank you written on post-its, birthday cards, etc. Likewise, no matter how hard you’re working in that corporate job, both men and women need to remember the little things. Another interesting thing they said was, what changed the game is when women started to move in packs. That just destroyed men totally. When women roll in packs, two things can happen. If two of them in the group don’t like you, you don’t stand a chance with the one you want. If they like you, you can have the one you want, plus an additional one or two. Hilarious, and true, you have to admit.
So far, it seems what I’m getting today is an education in life, love and relationships. But enough talk, I needed to de-stress, and not think too much. The old flame and I said bye and arranged to meet tomorrow. He called me his girl, that was sweet. Perhaps I should quit the quest now! But not yet, I need MACYS, I really do. After the heavy conversations, I went to East Legon to visit a couple of friends that I knew wouldn’t get on the deep bandwagon. It was exactly what I needed. I got my mind temporarily off the quest and just had a relatively good time.
The night was still fairly young when I left East Legon, so I went to pick up my cousin from home and we went to Bella Roma. BR was closed. That was disappointing. And everything else in Osu was closed, at 11pm. Don’t people drink and eat on Sundays? We went to a little Italian icecream joint a few metres past Papaye. My cousin had arranged with the owner to sell my books at his café, so we stopped by to say hello. One of the girls at the cafe had a copy of the book. She brought it out and I signed it for her. That was really random but very nice. I think signing my book for a total stranger was one of the best parts of my day, honestly. I told the owner I’d bring copies and fliers to the café tomorrow. I can’t remember the name of the place now, but I’ll post it on the blog as soon as I take the books. I know Silverbird isn’t very convenient, so I’m working on getting the books into more locations.
My cousin asked if I was going to blog as I was heading up to bed, and I said yes, but it’s been a lazy, slow day. And he said that’s all part of the experience. I like that – that’s all part of the experience, the excitement of hand-holding one day and the safety and security of old friends and loved ones another day. C’est la vie!
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Looooooooooool!!! Hopefully you’ll catch one WORTH CATHCHING! Lots of fish in ghana, true – but you want to go for the salmons instead of the koobis, unless of course, you don’t mind Koobis!
I’ll be reading to see what happens!
What kind of guy are you looking for? If you just want someone who looks good, there are plenty on the streets…masons, carpenters, etc. All you have to do is get out of the car, and walk. You will get some proposals by the time you walk an hour. If you’re looking for someone with lots of education and a regular job, check Bella Roma. Also, be willing to approach men. i.e. walk over, and say hi, my name is so and so, i like your shirt. so what do you do?
But my question for you is, once you find this guy, are you going to subject him to a long distance relationship right at the beginning or are you willing to move back to live with him here.
Esi, great , great questions. I think if by Friday, I have met someone and he’s open to the idea, I’d be willing to try long distance to see what happens. Just to get to know each other. I finally have webcam and skype is pretty awesome
In anycase,I’m moving back, sooner than later. I just dont wanna close doors anymore cos of distance.
Bella Roma you say, havent heard of it but will definitely check it out since education is important! Dont hesitate to give me additional tips.
Lady Jay, definitely aiming for a salmon! Stay tuned aight.
cant wait to hear about Saturday!!:-)
B, will be looking for a happy ending on day 8
Enjoy Ghana!
How bout Ghanaian guys for the most part dont even know staring is rude ? lolol shucks ! Thats all I have to say. Having said that I think where the pull of “good” eligible ghanaian men are is relative. Ironicaly I have NEVER considered the cliche going to Ghana to possibly meet someone. Yes I know there is a strong pull. It just hasnt interested me in the least or its just that I’ve learnt with time that being hitched aint for me. No sour feeling about any past relationships however. Its just that I think if you look and position yourself well enough you will find the what u want & need. Its known as “The Law of Access”‘. You cant walk into some “side-way ghangsta-like” club and expect to meet a man who will dine you at “Tavern on the green” to the contrary your aspiring suitor aint searching/looking for you in “Chokor”. i.e If you have no business being there. Unless you work for the fisheries or you visiting Uncle Nii Lantey who happens to be a fisherman. And even in such a scenario what are freaking odds.
Women of colour have always had a leaner mapping/margine/probability to find men abroad considering but not limiting it to these factors.
1. If you are STRICTLY looking for a ghanaian man. i.e you arent broadening your options.
2. Life out here prolongs the time for men (and even women) to establish themselves (so to speak) hence it prolongs the time they even think / venture for commitment.
3. Men find abroad enjoy the options of open relationships are it is more prevalent here and thus mostly considering that they have the option to play the field than settling down in addition to the factor I explained in #2 it in turn cuts off the number of eligible ghanaian men.
4. Accesibility: Life abroad esp is 120% work and more work. We spend more time at work and other non-communal extra-curricular activities than mingle with people of our kind or in this case possible suitors. Also you could live in Texas and have your match in Seattle or even Utah considering that the ghanaian population is sparsely dispersed due to their motivations to migrate to one state Vs the other ( economic reasons, education, work ) thereby further widening the gap for any possibility of meeting an aspiring suitor.
5. Misconceptions & stereotype. Some people “sadly” have been raised to be tribalistic and even in 2010 we see highly educated people still bending on old traditions like “oh I am an Nzema girl and hence can’t marry from this tribe vs that cos my parents said so or that is my belief/preference”. So in a place where the pull for finding your “tribesman” is small, there will furter be
a smaller possibilty of a match
And the list goes on — Its endless !
Having said that, it makes sense that of course being in Ghana gives one a better advantage considering a stronger pull of prospective suitors, the pressure from immediate ( on both sides – the man & the woman), peer pressure, societal expectations, stronger religious & traditional affiliations, stronger networks, family recommendations, match-making……
And the list goes on….Its endless.
I however strongly believe in “The Law of Access” — Make yourself available, approachable, accessible WITHOUT comming off as desperate in the right network/crowd irrespective of your location.
If indeed it is a priority to meet a subtantial potential suitor, PLEASE steer away from being a couch potato like me
Glad you’re blogging again. After this, you can write a manual on “How to meet a Good Ghanaian man in Ghana in 8 days”. LOL. Remember that you’ll have to sort through a lot of rubbish before you actually find the real thing. Good luck – can’t wait to read the final post on day 8!
Wow, Muriel, I should have you guest blog, huh,
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Today’s been a good day so far. Y’all should keep checking back to find out whats happenning. For some reason I’m quite excited, cos I’m being proactive. I’m hardly ever proactive. I do like Muriel’s law of access; positioning is a key part. Anyhoo, I gotta go get ready now. I’m off ’somewhere’ tonight! Check back moro.
Gal i am following ur 8 day adventure in Gh with keen interest n i can assure u;u definately will find ’someone’ but the big question is will he be the ‘one’? There is something wierd n funny abt guys in Gh – the most eligible dudes ie polished, educated, good looking, middle class workers, fun 2 be with[most ladies' dream guys]are all taken and yet they would want to hang out with ladies who may be just like their Mrs or even better than them and……the bold daring ones who will approach a yankee babe like u are the old, fun loving sugar daddies.
Just like u, havent been in the Gh media ie radio/tv 4 almost 10yrs b4 relocating, it dawned on me that Gh men have a ‘certain perception’ abt women who are well educated, with good jobs and generally doing well for themselves. These women are put in a ‘certain class’ n are considered unapprochable n even when they are single and ‘nashing’ seriously,it is percieved/assumed that they have several men at their disposal!!!
Another observation: i may be wrong but i think the few eligible bachelors in GH are timid? or may be that’s not the word? and they lack ‘confi’. For eg, you may run in2 some of these guys, they will stare at u sleepishly n admire u and all and you may in turn go like ‘damn this guy is cute..how i wish…’ but this dream guy wouldnt dare muster courage and approach u cos he may be thinking…. ei, this gal is high class and high maintenance’. What’s their definition of high class anyway? Mind you, African ladies aren’t supposed to make the first move or has that changed lol? Fill me in.
Hmmm you know[expeeerience]—–No one believed me when i constantly kept telling friends/family etc that i was single for almost 3yrs. The GH guys later became green with anger/envy when some handsome US based Dr came to whisk me away:)))))Its so ironic….i found love in the US after being ‘neglected’ by my own people and Boakywewaa is in Gh looking for love!!!
Enjoy GH, have an open mind and a big heart to tolerate anything/anyone cos believe you me, there are some irritating ’singletons’ out there too and be rest assured that you will meet loads of frogs b4 Prince Charming will come along.
I am grinning from ear to ear! This is so exciting, and I can’t wait for day 8! Oh but before I forget, even if you don’t find the one, PLEASE enjoy yourself!!!
naa gyamah&muriel are on point! …kyewaaa avoid the married old flames. Aint taking u nowhere. speaking of places to meet serious eligibles-church is one, i know many of our age mates-men-who are looking, in the belief they’ll find a good girl there. 2 friends, girls, took up church & both are married now …they are happy. Long distance—thats the prob. Very few of us men opt for that. There are risks for someone like you, watch out for the bloke who’s going to come along during your short trip just to get some, knowing fully well you are out of their hair in some 6 days and can always use the distance as an excuse later to pull out of whatever you may have been deluded into thinking you shared. But HE might just be at the CIRCLES launch too, you never know….good luck, waiting to read up on saturday night’s adventure! Btw, is the hot friend a mutual friend? Lol.. PS…STAY AWAY FROM THE COKE&PEPPER SOUP!!!!
Dayo, yes oh, the ‘hot’ friend is our mutual friend. You know all my friends anyways. But thanks for the tip, though, about those who might pretend to be interested and then use the distance to pull out. Someone told me today to be careful no one takes advantage of me, cos i’m not here for long. I think i’m too old for someone to take advantage of me. That’s what I think but who knows.
But I am honestly glad I’m trying this little social experiment. If it wasn’t for that, I wouldnt have gone out to the concert yesterday. I’m such a homebody its terrible.
Naa G. thanks for the tip, open mind and big heart! By the way, does your US based Dr. have friends, brothers, cousins, etc?
I have been smiling and giggling throughout. Tis da bomb girl and am loving every bit of this adventure B, be careful but have fun all the same and watchout for the ’smart’ giys out there. I share your sentiments and am equally on a mission this year, something must definately give way. Times of waiting for some guy to invite or take me out are over.
Last Saturday evening, I just hopped into my car and hit Osu to get some ice-cream at the Italian joint, sat outside to eat and had a chit chat with a friend. Gone are the days of feeling sorry for myself and being in bed Friday and Saturday night.
Life must be enjoyed to the fullest especially when there is no man. Make yourself accessible and be friendly without being seen as desperate. Times have changed, approach the guy if you find him attractive because some of the guys are timid and may see you as ‘high class’.
Will follow with keen interest, maybe we can share ideas and a few lessons…….ejoy every bit of this adventure and all the best….
Please if (when) you do find him let me know where and how and if there is anymore where he is coming from because I live here and (SMH) there just arent any of them of them!
“Don’t you sometimes wish you can create your man? With a heart from that one, and that one’s mind, and that one’s height and looks and so forth.” I sure do! Chale…enjoy Ghana oh. I just got one of my co-workers to bring me shito from Ghana and I wish I could have a kenkey party complete with domedo and fried eggs. Ah…the memories…ok this is not doing anything for my new commitment to healthy living.
@ Ruby — shaking my head.
Hi Boakyewaa,
You’ve got me tickled with this quest of yours. Very different and bold. I’m looking forward to the book launch and the gist on your blog. Keep it coming.
With regard to the search for the special one, my advice is don’t look too far. Sometimes the person for you may be right at your doorstep. Someone who is your ideal match and yet you consider them as a simple friend or sometimes “like a brother”. So look, but focus on those nearer to you and that may be the key.
PS. You must sign my copy of Circles before you leave.
Afua, where you dey? Inbox me your number and I’ll come sign the book ASAP. Len, inbox me your number, if you dont mind, maybe we can do Bella Roma or the Italian joint together. That could be fun, abi.
Elizabeth, all those boys around you, what’s up with that? Are they all bffs? lolol. Thats always the problem right. So many male friends, and they all see you as a sister, very annoying. You seem very popular so i’m surprised you havent grabbed. we for talk, maybe there’s one in your circle who might be perfect for me!
Susan, its so weird you mentioned kenkey. I just had some today eh, e no be easy. Need to go grab domedo sometime this week.
Honestly this quest has really opened my eyes. I still cant be direct, but i’m working on it. And Afua, I think the problem is i’ve been looking too close. Too many old flames and old friends. I need to cast my net out a little further, menn.
So maybe you should look up with some of the characters from ‘Circles’ and incorporate them into this blog
Yeah I mean your ex and current girlfriends.
)) Plus who knows what eligible men they may know eh….
We know they exist
Seriously though all the best in your endeavour!
@ Elizabeth pls slow down with the male friends a bit wai
They aint helping cos guess what ? They can find someone whenever however they’ll be blocking your chances. Cos men are hunters and wont go into a territory where there seems to be another hunter ? Feel me ? If you are in someone’s territory all the time aint no lion gonna hunt the Tiger (you). Ns3m pii k3k3 xoxox
@ Boakyewaa if you are still hanging around with old male friends & flames, then without even being psychic lemme give you the honest bad news: Old flames/male friends from the past ALMOST never woo girls they know from their past. Men like a “fresh catch”. No matter how old, round, pot-bellied they are, they still like it “fresh”; They like something they’ve never seen or heard of before. Feel me Baby Afua ?
And quiet frankly I think hanging out with old flames and male friends from the past hoping you’d rekindle or start something substantial with any of them is selling your very self-enriched and mature self waaaaay too short. For real 
Also, if you happen to be a “clickish” person or only hang out with peeps you know from your past with prospects of meeting a certain Prince charming it makes that possibility more difficult. Please move into different avenues, narrow down the criteria. For eg. in Ghana for instance our women (like u and I) are taller in general than are SHORT & DARK men ! LOL. Hence we have to open our choices to shorter/average men. I am NOT suggesting we settle or be with someone we are NOT attracted to. However whats the point in dating Chris Webber like Tyra Banks did and get played or hurt all the time when “Muchumudu” will treat u good ? 
In our 30’s we should also be open to meeting men who’ve been divorced, have kids and much older men cos guess what ? Most men who commit later in life stear towards woman in their 20’s. They like much younger women most of the time with the exception of those who are very much into the academia who would rather end up with a woman of any age considering they go for a woman who they have something in common with. Also, we’d want to push our prospects for men between mid to late 30’s through mid 40’s. Yup ! I see you rolled ya big eyes. lol. But its TRUE. Men our age usually dont gravitate towards us. They see us like “old bate” 
Sadly. Its a shame how ageist men can be when it comes to women. I am certainly no authority on this subject but thats just my experience with very honest male friends. And I am talking about male friends within a broad demographic 
Just Saying y’all
What about a man showing a woman that he loves and appreciates her? What about a man celebrating his woman’s successes? It seems to me that all these men want is a submissive maid/sex slave who never gets tired of cooking and cleaning and whose whole life is centered on pleasing them. No thanks. My rabbit will do just fine.
@ Anon, i agree with you on that. When will Ghanaian men also appreciate the women they have. Ghanaian men are very selfish when it comes to showing their women how they feel about them.
Boakyewaa, keep it coming, bought a copy of Circles on Friday, and couldn’t put it down the whole weekend. I was hooked. Kudos and good luck in finding a good man. I can’t wait till day 8. Take care.
Hmmm this 8 day adventure has made this blog a must read….the different shades of thoughts,opinions,experiences,expectations, suggestions etc being shared on this blog are just awesome and i am loving every bit of it> @Boakyewaa yep Dr has an older bro, 40yrs old n a police officer in DC, the middle guy is lecturer in New Jersey but errrrmmm they r all married! The last one however is single, about 25yrs old and a final year college student. If you wouldnt mind being a cougar like say Demi Moore….we can work out somethn..:)))
The pool side of Hotel Kufour[lol] is so perfect 4 the book launch and hei book signing, film premeiring etc is the ‘area of specialisation’ for silverbird so u are very much on track. Who knows maybe u will find ‘wu wura’ at one of these two events. I maybe be wrong Boakyewaa but i think u r spending too much time with cousins etc ie you have too many ‘chaperons’…..step out there alone, get very adventurous but not crazy, leave the ‘lai momos’ 4 now n ’shine ur eyes’ lol. Day 4 where are u?
Too many chaperons! Bloody hysterical. I know though, way too many cousins. Everyone is my cousin, everyone is an old friend. Muriel is right, i need to broaden my scope, try new avenues. I just dont know how though. Old friends are familiar, and I dont know how to meet new people. It takes me so long for me to actually gel with pple that when I find some fun to be around male friends, thats it. But y’all are right, gotta move on. Muriel, hmm, can you imagine, 5 years ago I would have said, no way, no divorcee, no step kids, nada, nada. Now thats definitely on the table. As much as I’m being more open-minded, the thing is, where can I meet new people huh? I havent met anyone new in four days!!!
Big Mama, if you want me to sign your copy, inbox me your number or something. Or you can wait till the launch, in May. Just let me know. And thanks for buying, much much appreciated!
Diva, not sure I understand what you’re getting at
Anyways, i’m posting Day Four right now. It wasn’t such a great day, but thats cos ‘old flames and friends’ messed it up!
B’ Glover, I believe it is time you cut off all old flames who are not contributing anything positive to your life especially the one you were msn fighting with – whoever he is.
Hurray to new people. Hear Hear. Amen!
LMAO @ all these guys around me…
@ Maame(Muriel) ten q for the the add-vice:-) and I personally came to that conclusion like two years ago and I have since then stated categorically that I am no longer accepting applications for male friends cos I have enough of those but its rather difficult to shed those already there…but I am trying!
But that said ..its no cliche when women say the good men are either married, committed or GAY especially here in GH! there just arent many nice men to go around TRUST ME!
And yes maybe u need to allow the old flames Boakyewaa sankofa when it comes to men ve never been the best …well to me anyways! Guu lock!
ooo and Maame u are right men our age are definately not the way forward! I remember someone told me once when I was moving back to Ghana that I would end up marrying a ’serial divorcee’ or widower I was actually annoyed when he said this in 2007 but now I appreciate the wisdom of his words! The men who ve run the race once and ve come back from that war (marriage) need to be added to our list of possibles and they are less work and usually treat u better anyways
welcome home b,8 days is 2 much if u ask me,just map out ur strategy,know what type or kind of guy u want,d kind of places such guys hangout and be there,dnt luk 2 hot or 2 available,a little snobbish n hard 2 get,pick out at least 4 hangouts and have lunch there.on d 1st day u can go with 2 of ur girlfriends,ditch them on the 2nd day.try pubs or bars that show live matches ie english premier leagues,la liga etc..after i had gotten over a very nasty breakup i developed this strategy n i grabbed one 4 maself on the 3rd day;n we’re still going strong.3 of my girlfriends benefitted from this strategy as well.luking 4ward 2 d bk launch,u also promised signing my copy on ur arrival…all d best!!!!
Boakyewaa,I have to say that i am totally shocked at the fact that a ‘cute’ gal like yourself with eyes that sparkle like a pair of akwatia-mined diamonds and are huge(forgive me,i have a thing for big beautiful eyes!) is gnashing!But i totally agree with one of the contributers to your blog who indicated that most guys think they dont have a chance with pretty successful young ladies like your venerated self.I mean,back then in the University of Ghana,i remember i was totally in awe of you,except that i didnt see how a “suitcase/chopbox” young man like myself was going to summon courage from whereever to ask the BOAKYEWAA GLOVER of smash tv fame et.al out,let alone get the opportunity to engage her in a protracted conversation…Maybe i should have…but i guess the ladies get older and wiser when their experiences out there in the wider world give them other perspectives on life…
Going forward,i am still full of admiration for you,and though i havent grabbed my copy of ‘Circles’yet,(something i hope i do soon),i do sincerely hope that you find that special gentleman out here in GH who will cause the proverbial butterflies to move about in your tummy…Godbless!
Miss B all the best in your search. Very interesting project and I give you much Kuddos! A woman taking her destiny into her own hands! It all about girl power and Im all for that. Remember Cupid is always eager to help your quest…so why not give him a try! LOL! I’m very serious and you know where to find him if you’re ready for another challenge! All the best and Im watching this page like a hawk! hahahahaha
Sika, wow, that strategy actually worked? 3 days? But since it worked for other girlfriends of yours, I might try it. I have 3 more days, let’s see what I can pull off.
Kodjo, I’m not gyata at all, oh, me this, thats all. Maybe you shoulda holla’d. Who knows? But how come you’re not even presenting yourself right now, or suggesting any of your friends? Whats up with that, are you all married?
Akua, I saw your last single profile, Ms. Pearl and I was actually thinking hey why not? So lets see how this week goes, I may reach out to that lazy Cupid afterall
Gosh I missed ya!
Have fun in GH.
How come no one has suggested the strip clubs? Lots of men hang out there! LoL
Now that the Winter Olympics are over, I need something new to cheer for so somebody, anybody, please tell Miss BG’s Old-Flame-With-A-Heart that he needs to step his game up, put in work and sweep Miss BG off her feet. He better be reading this blog cos apoh dey here paaaaa. I’m on the sidelines with pink & green pom-poms ready to cheer. If he likes, I’ll add purple too!
Girl we are in our thirties. Well at the cusp of it. So yes those 20 something days of being coy and hoping the guy will end up on the same page with you somewhere along the way or even figure out what you want are OVER. O-V-A. These days you let a guy know what you want and if he can handle it then THAT IS MY MAN! If he can’t N-E-X-T! NEXT!!!!!!! These ovaries are not waiting for no man. hahaha.
Hey Glover lady, I still remember you as one of the finest creatures on earth- very beautiful , smart , intelligent… You pretty much have everything going for you. The last thing you wanna do and is to throw in the desperation and go hunting for a guy. It is the job of guys to hunt for you.
Don’t do the hunting job for them, hell no!
Do you remember the Bible saying that ” HE who finds a wife finds a good thing”.It didn’t say SHE who finds a husband. Sheeee, relax koraa and chill out and pray in faith that the time readily comes for the guy to find you but not you to find him.
I was in your situation until the beginning of the year. I had travelled to the US since 2005 and the well had been quite dry. I was getting worried. Then from no where I had two guys proposing at the same time with one having definitive marriage plans. I said yes to one and our wedding will be coming off by the end of year. He came hunting for me from Ghana…(you see ooo)
He is just crazy about me and I think I am falling deep for him as days go by.
My advice, dog your “hunting” plans for the rest of your trip and rather focus on how to become a “prey ” for hunters to find you.
From what Miss Lovely is saying, either she was dating 2 guys at the same time or she married a total stranger – both of which are not options for most women. Can I get an Amen up in here?
I am married with 2 kids and guess what? I approached my husband! He was a shy brother who needed just a little encouragement and I guess I was exactly was the doctor prescribed
And to date, he tells me my confidence is one of my most attractive qualities. No one is saying women should lead with a desperate foot (and women don’t want desperate men either). Everything can be done tastefully. Knowing what you want and being proactive about it is really the way to go.
Why is it wrong for a woman to be proactive in finding her life long partner? After all, we are proactive with other aspects of our lives. Why not love?
So to Boakyewaa, as the good book says “seek and ye shall find!”
Miss B, my number is hitting your inbox soonest, we need to hookup. By all means, at this age, free your mind isnt the issue, the guys should be on the same page or seem to heading onto the same page with you. I got introduced to a nice young guy who had just returned from the States to settle. After a almost two months, I realised we just weren’t on the same page so its time for N-E-X-T.
Spot on Muriel, couldnt agree with you more, by all means, the divorcees must feature, some of them are in this situation due to no fault of thiers and a second chance wouldnt help. Being very picky now wouldnt help. Some of the older guys are good material. Our age mates naturally gravitate to the girls in thier mid to late twenties. A few years ago, I wouldnt hear of that but at almost 32, you bet my mind has changed.
Keep looking and something will happen soon, have faith girl
This is hilarious! “Anon: I am NOT suggesting we settle or be with someone we are NOT attracted to. However whats the point in dating Chris Webber like Tyra Banks did and get played or hurt all the time when “Muchumudu” will treat u good?” You are killing me.
Ladies, I think we should start dating younger men…the only thing is they may not be ready to get married….but they might if you put the buunduum on them gangst-style. I heard that always works
Kodjo,
This is your chance to get with a “a ‘cute’ gal like [Boakyewaa] with eyes that sparkle like a pair of akwatia-mined diamonds and are huge([especially when you] have a thing for big beautiful eyes!)”. Don’t be afraid. Throw caution to the wind and give it a chance. This may be the answer to your prayers. That is if you’re not married or attached.
Good luck.
Miss Asem ooo, I have known my fiancee for the past 10 years if you care to know. We started off being friends and it metamorphised into marriage. So kai…I am not marrying a total stranger. All these years, a beautiful damsel like Miss Glover hasn’t found anyone becuase she is actively pursuing instead of being pursued and sweetie, that makes a huge difference! Chill out , Miss G. The guy will find you wherever you are. It could be one of your old friends, colleagues, etc, suddenly taking whatever relationship to a totally new level.
Enjoy your marriage Asem oo let hope your guy wasn’t too shy to turn you down when you proposed to him:) May he didn’t want to hurt your feelings. We want a happy marriage… not just getting married!
Miss Lovely, point of correction, I haven’t been actively pursuing, I havent been proactive at all. But I have NOW decided that its time to be proactive, thats what this blog is about. All i do is work, sit home, watch tv and go the cinema, nothing else. But I think i need to be a bit more social and meet more people. You really shouldnt make it sound like a bad thing.
I dont think someone is going to walk to my door and knock and say, hey its me, you future bf. How does anyone meet people? Through people or by going out to places, thats it. It doesnt matter if you’ve known ur man 10 years, the first time you met him were you sleeping in your bed? You either met through a friend or whiles you were out of your house.
So thats all i’m trying to do. For once, I just wanna leave my house
Ms Lovely, let’s not making this personal – hahaha. Enjoy your 2 proposals and your magical marriage and I will enjoy my 1 proposal and happy marriage. LOL. But, please let’s not reduce Ms Boakyewaa’s interesting blog to a girl fight. Sending kisses your way
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But on a serious note, can you tell us exactly what Ms Boakyewaa needs to do to get the Finder/Proposer to find her? Maybe that will make her a very ready Findee.
@ Boakyewaa, you are right about my Right not showing up if all you do is go to work and come home
When you go back to the US, please do different activities. We no longer want to read about you working and going straight home. Haha. Unless you plan on marrying your boss at work or the mailman who delivers your mail at your doorstep 
In reality, God doesn’t drop him at your doorstep. You have to make yourself available so you are on the right track
Please keep us posted. And I like how you are being real about Mr. Beach Boy (hopefully, he will like this new name – LOL). At least you know his goals don’t quite line up with yours. Having said that, I think the conversation came too early. Looking back, what do you think?
Wow…what an interesting dialogue. I agree with both Ms. Asem and Ms. Lovely…I think Ms. Asem’s point is Boakyewaa’s wonderfulness will not be discovered if she’s cooped up in the house and/or the office 24-7. It is hard as hell not to though. So I agree with B deciding not to be a homebody and getting out and “networking”.
I think that’s an apt way to describe it after all networking can yield all sorts of results both professional and personal. You just never know. So yes, let’s network. 
But I think what Ms. Lovely’s point is, we women need to be chaste and demure and allow men to “chase” us. This is just the old tradition of “letting men feel like men” and not emasculate them by being the aggressors. Some guys don’t mind but I think on some level, the average Ghanaian man will always want to be the aggressor. I can sort of understand that on some level. But really, I think the trick is being errr “friendly” but demure and chaste at the same time; knowing how to let the guy think he’s chasing you when you saw him first and figured out how to get his attention. BIG DISCLAIMER: BEING CHASED DOES NOT MEAN STRETCHING!!! So e.g. you see a guy you like right…say in the lounge of African Regent…you give him some cute smile be…delicately batting your eyelashes at him…it’s cute and demure but guess what he knows or thinks you may be feeling him. Nothing wrong with that…I dey lie?
Disclaimer: I have by no means mastered any of this and seeing as my struggle is just the same as Boakyewaa’s (i.e. i am so tired after work, all i want to do is relax at home all weekend long). AND i’ve seen some of my good girlfriends flirt their way into the hearts of guys without looking like aggressors. It was all in the body language. It has taken me a while to figure it out. But fellas….please please please correct me if I am wrong.
Miss BG, I think Day 5 was worth the time.
I dont think the marriage subject that came up was ill-timed. It takes some people years to gather that info. You got it in one date. I’m all for efficiency.
I’m cheering for you too Mr Concert. You know where to find Miss BG when you have a “possible” solution for that 2+2.
@ Asem ooo: AMEN! (thats all I’m saying)
Hey Boakyewaa, I always read your blog but have never commented…until now. Great blog girl
I must say, this has been one of your most captivating posts. I just have to say…Where is Day 6? I check every morning to get an update on your previous day, he he he. Looking forward to reading it.
Chale B….after your convo with Mr. Concert/Beach Boy last night, I think you should give him a chance. It sounds as if you’ve closed the door for some reason or the other. But you never know…try and be open to the possibility. You never know…it could lead to a happy ending
Day 7 please! Don’t keep us waiting Ms Boakyewaa
Mr. Beach Boy seems to be a nice guy, but you’re meeting him at the wrong time in his life (that is, he’s not ready for anything serious and you are), and MMM is a great guy and sparks are flying, but you’ve run out of time (in Ghana). We never think about it, but timing is so important. It’s not just about meeting Mr. Right, but also about meeting him at the right time in both your lives. I’m starting to see why arranged marriages are ingrained in some cultures!
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! Hercules! Hercules! Just fabulous! Go B. Oh Mr. Beach Boy…ah well…better luck next time…B have a great day and congrats on the interview with TV3. Hopefully, it will open some more doors and get Circles on the NY bestsellers’ list.
@ BG. why has my candidate been disqualified. he went out of his way to get yr attention. i think he deserves a fone call. you never know.. his approach might be a little wierd but he could be wat u r looking for….you said u were amused. he mite be a barrel of laffs. these days one needs a guy who can make one laff. life is stressfull and boring enuff as it is. pls call my candidate he sounds like fun. Dont dismiss him out of turn. God moves in mysterious ways. his wonders to perform!
Hmmmm in fact Ms. B… I agree with “friend of crazy driver”…call the guy….he went to great lengths to get your attention and to give you his number. We complain that men don’t try hard these days…I must say konua tried and was original about it too. Remember this is all part of “networking”? Chale….who knows…y’all could become great friends. You just never know…
Nice one Miss B, am enjoying each day of your adventure. I was pretty pissed off by the episode witht eh crazy driver but please give him a call. Give it a try for you dont lose anything….you donet know what could come out of it. I totally agree with the last commentator…..God indeed works in mysterious ways.
o girl for MMM, too bad your time is up but finish hard and keep in touch since you will be back in May but please dont close the door on Mr. Concert, leave your options open as you persue others.
Awaiting the next posting and all he best, you might even meet someone at the airport on even on the plane…..how about that???
PS// Where is Bella Roma???
Boakyewaa, i just saw this blog on FB yesterday and i am oh-so- loving it!!Good job!you are an amazing writer and capture the readers attn from the 1st line.
So i was waiting till day 8 to find out what happened, and i expected Mr Beach Boy to eventually come out with the truth about his non committal stance and tell u the now very common story of ‘ I have this girl, but it’s not really working, however we are still together and she is hoping for marriage,so i can’t do that to her …’
There are some pretty decent men out here in Ghana (mostly taken) or as they call themselves MBA(married but available), then there are the elligible bachelors who realise the scarcity of their breed, and so refuse to commit to one woman when there is a plethora of women to choose from!!! However all is not lost, as they say, you will bump into him when you aren’t even looking, or he may be right in your face and you just can’t see him, but till then enjoy dating because that really is exciting!
As for ‘Mr reckless driver’ I think it’s refreshing that he did something so bold, and I’ll probably be shot for saying this, but as timid as our Ghanaian men usually are, i’m almost inclined to think he may not be Ghanaian! His handwriting is also quite nice:-), but clearly he didn’t provide enough eye candy, because GIRL! I know you would have wasted no time in hollering at that dude!!!!!!which girl would?
Just tried calling mr. Crazy Driver, and the poor guy must have turned off his phone cos it said “the mtn no. u are trying to call is currently switched off pls try later” lol..will keep trying.. and yea where is Bella Roma??
Bee,
Just finished reading circles after months! I am loving the Gh in 8 days blog…it’s amazing!
While the posts are rather entertaining, I think we should be respectful of one another, stop the insults and just agree to disagree! We are grown folk and don’t need to be screaming(arguing) like banshees!
MzB should be applauded for doing something we can’t or won’t do i.e. blog about our lives! I won’t blog about my life but I do enjoy living vicariously through Bee’s – as I’m sure we all do!
As for the dude in the car he’s a toke (mugu) proper…u shouldn’t try to get someone’s attention by almost ramming into her car…..silly!
Enjoy ur time in Gh…I’m heading there in abt a wk so email me some tips (lol) and I’ll fill u in when I return! Congrats dear!
interesting… it seems the comments keep reducing in number every time i check back in here
all the best in your quest!
I honestly feel Mr. Crazy Driver may have been someone who was aware of your 8 day program. Maybe he wanted to mess with you and see if you were really living up to your blog. He may have noticed the face and related it to the blog and figured he would do this. I have been approached by people in traffic in Accra but usually its subtle – either they hand their business card to a hawker and tell you to call them cos you are a friend from a long time ago (just to make sure you call them) – or they smile and try and start a traffic conversation – and you know those are possible considering the stagnant nature of our traffic. Ghanaian men are funny so perhaps he is someone who is in on your little plot. thats my opinion. No one will really stick their number on their rear window like that… Chances are slim…
@Maame maybe you’re right and Mr Crazy Driver is aware of 8days 8nights. Alternatively Mr CD is possibly on a quest to get hooked himself. He probably knows nothing about this blog and has invented this ‘cell number on the window’ tactic to increase his chances of hooking a chick.
seeing as human beings (especially ladies) are naturally curious this is actually an ingenious move.
@Boakyewaa I’m eagerly awaiting your conclusion, lessons learnt etc. Thanks for making it a great week for me. Yesterday was especially fun.
Hey Miss B where’s day 8. keeping us in suspense huh! bring it on. this blog is not interesting anymore as some comments have been deleted and some of the ones left do not flow(fit in together). miss B don’t u think the Disclaimer thing should have been the first thing on the blog?
@Boakyewaa – Hmmm, I don’t think that Ghana is necessarily the best place for a single Ghanaian woman to meet a great guy. You met two cool guys only because, like you said yourself, you made the effort to be proactive instead of being a homebody. If you’d spent your time in Accra glued to your TV (outside of your work commitments, of course), you wouldn’t have met any new people. Quick question – why didn’t you ask MMM to come with you to the poetry review? He may have declined the invitation, but maybe it would have reassured him that you were interested, just otherwise committed?
Ultimately though, I completely agree with you about priorities – it’s just where you are right now in your life. Like I said earlier, it’s not just about meeting Mr. Right, but also about meeting him at the right time in both your lives.
Thanks for letting us follow your adventure!
Very happy for you and the progress you’re making with the book! This week was an experience and I believe years down the line, you will look back and smile.
On the dating front, I will say continue going out and who knows, you just may find another MMM or Beach boy in the US
I agree that women looking for Ghanaian men have a better chance being in Ghana or keeping strong ties there.
What I like most is what you said about priorities.
In my opinion women know it but wont admit that their priorities is what is keeping them single. Maybe women dont admit it because they are quick to jump down a man’s throat when he says he is not ready to get married.
This priorities thing could explain how some people get married in this age without knowing their partners. Their priority might be to have kids or show the world they can get married too.
This was a fun ride.
Try searching for this one soul on 0243071659, sure, he has lots to offer, healthy debates and discussions when it comes to what relationships are in Ghana today, it’s peer pressure antics, loving and marrying in a minute, too many artificial Ghanaian women depicting western culture, deleting the Ghanaian black beauty, centering more on wealth, materialistic ideas, the taboo of not kissing and holding hands on the streets, love for money, too much expectations both sides from society and individuals, and its fakeness and how people are all for outer beauty, its just wont work, lost priorities-Education. Talk to this guy, he is on skype, msn and yahoo.
Nice one B. And I agree with you and Mike about priorities. It is true mome, for me anyway. I guess it is a question of figuring out the right balance and perhaps just not taking ourselves too seriously. And congrats on the interview at TV3.
I agree…priorities are everything! Why start something you can’t finish? I keep getting asked so who are you dating and when are you getting married and my standard answer in the last year or so has been….career first! But don’t leave it too late if the marriage and 2.5 children and the white pickett fence is your ultimate dream! All the very best with everything…
You my dear, are a fantastic writer! and still completely gorgeous by any standard. I still can’t explain why you are still single. Doesn’t make sense to me. I hope you find love in Ghana though, I am already taken otherwise i would have certainly made you an offer. Remember this “Men are simple things. They can survive a whole weekend with only three things: beer, boxer shorts and batteries for the remote control” we are simple minded just show us some love and we will come tumbling, if and when you do find the man you love even if he is not up to your Specifications, you can make him do anything you want.
“The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness and kindness, can be trained to do most things.” – Jill Cooper.
All the best!
Alfy.
As always Boakyewaa, you never fail to disappoint with your writing. I’m just now catching up with your 8 day blog on your time spent in Ghana. I commend you on being proactive with your search for Mr. Right. Now, I hold you fully responsible for my cranky mood and bleary-eyed look this morning! I finally got around to ordering a copy of your book; it arrived last night and I was up reading until 2am, knowing fully well that I had to be up early for work. You know how I love my beauty sleep. What a fascinating read! I was hooked from the very first chapter. Now how do I get my copy signed?:-) I’ve always and will continue to be a fan of your writing. I can’t wait for your next book to drop. YOU GO GIRL, I am so proud of you!! Ewurabena M-W. CA
@ Ewurabena, for a minute when i read your first line, i was startled. You never fail to ‘disappoint’.. I think you meant to say something else? Glad you loved the blog and the book. sorry about your late night tho. I keep hearing that.. why are y’all reading so late? the way i value my sleep, nothing can keep me up except for maybe Spartacus, or 24 or Good Wife, or.. ah forget it. I will definitely visit CA this year. So I’ll come sign your book then. I gotta come visit you, see your digs and how you’re living large!
@ Alfred, medase oh. Very sweet of you. But are men really that simple? i’m putting the ’search’ on hold though. There are a couple of other things I wanna focus on over the next year. I cant be distracted right now
@ wishmaster, not sure what you’re on about, lololol. I might call the number tho, out of curiousity.
@ Mike, SSQ, Entertained, the priorities thing was an eye-opener. Now I understand men who wanna reach a certain point before they settle. It can be hard to juggle everythng. And I guess they can afford to wait as long as they want. Entertained, picket-fence paa? lololol. More like a concrete wall, you know how we do in Ghana.
I gotta admit the 8 days was stupidly fun,seriously. i’m dubbing this the year of ‘getting off the couch and living ya life.’ AMEN!
Oops,please excuse the gaffe. My fingers were going faster than the brain was processing. I meant to say, You’ve NEVER DISAPPOINTED/ You never fail to IMPRESS me with your writing. I did mention that I was tired, right? **grin** Ewurabena
I was wondering why it took me so long to discover this particular blog. I was dying of laughter when I read the intro because it reminded me of what people asked/told me when I was going to GH back in 2008. I spent almost a year there and even though I tried not to and it was clearly not my intention to, I met someone. LOL, I don’t think any single girl can be in GH for that long and not meet someone. There’s just something about the place. And generally Ghanaian men are bold. Sometimes too bold. I think I like ‘him’ because he politely approached and not with some cheesy lines.
Having left as a child I had forgotten certain things but this person that I met reintroduced me to so many things. I probably wouldn’t have adjusted to GH if it hadn’t been for him. And yes, I had to do some major ADJUSTMENT, especially getting use to the way things are done.
Your piece about the beach… lol… so true! the calming ocean waves just does something to you and we went there quite a lot.
It’s been almost a year since I left and yea… we’re still together. I thought things would fade once I left and got back to my “real” life but there’s just something about the GH experience. I’m actually going back next month.
In all i guess the myth does hold some truth. Especially for a cynical skeptic like myself.
I look forward to picking up a copy of your book when I down there.
P.S. Sorry no one told you about the Spindtex traffic!!! Also avoid Circle like the plague, regardless of the time of day.
I’ve been so MIA! This is freaking awesome!…lol… I think you really did put in the effort considering the fact that you only had 8 days and nights. Heck I was with my man for over 7 years and we’ve only been married for over 2! Relationships do take a long time to cultivate and nurture but you never know what might be coming your way. Keep your head up and focused (not too engrossed in what should be; consider what could be too)
Boakyweaa, it’s frankly criminal ur unattached! When u were a TV3 newscaster, I had a serious crush on you…then u disappeared! How come you have not been snapped up? Make time, lady, make time!! Happiness waits for no-one…wonder whether u will be my “Pick of the Ghanablogging week” just because of this post!
You ARE bold; well done!! Congrats on “Circles”!
Gal, don’t fret, don’t sweat. Remember you were made from the rib of a man. Mr. Right will SURELY come whoever he is, wherever he is. Remember he has a missing rib and is looking for it. Pray and have faith. (sounds a little old school huh?)
I really wish I could get you to sign my copy of the book. Finished it long ago though.
And I enjoyed your 8 days and 8 nights with the visuals and music and all. Missed your interviews on TV3 though.
Seriously, you dey try! Kudos!
hi! l find your writing very interesting,and obviously u must be interesting yourself.would like to be at the launch.just wondering if l can make it cos fridays are crazy in my office
Saw you on tv3.i think you are good. Ghana Nora Roberts in the making.will do well to grab a copy of circles.i hope you find Mr right with ease.
BG…I just now discovered this blog and 1st of all, you are an AMAZING writer!!! After reading this blog, I am excited and anxious to read anything written by you!I live in the states and when I googled, i was ecstatic to find CIRCLE on AMAZON.. This blog got me jumping-up-hollering-and-screaming with laughter and excitement….and your 8day quest was so familiar for me…only i didn’t go to Ghana…I lived in London at the time and got on a flight on the day america went to war with Iraq to come check out this ghanaian guy I had been talking on the phone with..well 7 yrs later, we’re happily married with 2 beautiful kids…I sure was worth my time and “pro-activeness”….awesome blog! I like u already! Good luck!
Popsicles! I’m already liking you too!
Thanks very much for your kind words. Wow, you traveled to America for a guy you’d never met? Glad it worked out for you. I’m not really looking anymore. Just taking it one day at a time, but still open to any possibilities. We’ll see what the future holds.
So did you get your copy from Amazon? Hope you did. When you’re done, let me know what you think yeah.
OH…i knew him…we went to college together although we were just friends back then….so when I wanted to be with someone, he happened to be single, we got talking and we needed to meet up to finalise thgs u know…but i was proactive and he liked that so….u go girl…I’m with u on that one…good luck for real!
Interesting piece! I love this, all the best Boakyewaa! @ Esi Cleland lol someone actually said to me, if you could only park your car and walk a few meters you are sure to ‘grab’, is that not hilarious? Question truly is which kind are you aiming for?
But seriously I have lived in Ghana all my life, I’m 25yrs,beautiful,talented,intelligent,religious etc however trust me I have not landed myself a ”correct” man yet, do not know if I have not looked hard enough or I just have not applied the ‘common sense’.I do not know what informed the idea that ‘its easy to find someone in Ghana’ I’ll agree to an extent, True! but their name is most likely to be ‘Mr. Wrong’
I truely wish you the best of luck,am sure you’ll find him soon.
I really enjoyed 8days and 8nights very much, but then I enjoy your blog.
I’ve been following your blog since you started it, but we moved in March and we’re still settling in, that’s why it’s taken so long to read this.
When I read about the guy who wanted to give you his number in traffic I found it quite funny, but having lived in Saudi Arabia for a while it wasn’t new to me at all. With all the restrictions there, that’s how guys and gals hook up there.
In will get my copy of circles when I go to GH this July.
All the best in all you endeavours.
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Intriguing…undoubtedly food for thought. I hope you don’t mind if I pass this on to a few other people I know.